The Beautiful 8

This morning ,there is a spring in my husbands step……There is a thankfulness in my heart, for eight years ago today – I married the man of my dreams……

We were young. I was 23, he was 25. We still had so much to learn – We STILL have so much to learn, but…… we’re doing it together.

Divorce is not an option.

We just DON’T go there. It is not an option in our marriage. The only option is to work it out. And I am ever so thankful I have a husband so loving.

Did you know – In Canada, the divorce rate is 48%. Almost 50%. That means that almost half of the people who get married, end up divorced. We knew that going into our marriage and together we made a commitment to not be a part of that statistic.

We also lived together before we were married – Couples who live together before marriage have a 33% divorce rate. We didn’t want to be a part of that statistic.

It is estimated that nearly 1 out of 2 first time marriages will end in divorce. And that many marriages experience the ‘seven year itch’, breaking up at seven years and then divorcing at 8.

Jim and I are more in love now, than the day we got married. He is my companion, my best friend, my confidant, the man of my dreams……

People tend to think we have the ‘Perfect” marriage, and the ‘Perfect’ life. But we wouldn’t be here if it weren’t for Jesus.

NO, things aren’t perfect, we have been together for 11 years, married for 8 and there have been a lot of struggles. But we make the effort to work through them. It is hard. It is work to keep quiet and let it go when you just want to keep the fight going. It isn’t easy to put your spouse first when your tired and have had a long day…but it is worth it, it is worth the bond you build over time, knowing you will be there for one another through sickness and through health, through the times when you have no money, to the times when you have an abundance. It is definitely worth the work.

Today, we celebrate 8 beautiful years of marriage – knowing we still have a lot to learn and a long way to go, but doing it together.

Life’s a beach…..

It’s amazing how sitting on the beach changes your perspective. Even as our youngest (2.5 yrs) is hurriedly running back and forth from the playground to the water, to the swing, back to the playground – Those few minutes you can steal to yourself while the older kids are in the water and the youngest is finally sitting still, playing in the sand….Those are the moments you live for!

Watching the kids play, enjoying the breeze, the waves of water through your toes, Relaxing and thinking of all the ways the Lord has moved. And it always makes me think – this is only a taste, a little piece,  of the sweetness we will enjoy in His presence.

Not so perfect….

There’s a story in our family…..My Grandpa likes to tell it, when he remembers my Grandma, staring into the distance.

Back when they first got married, as a young wife, my grandmother tries her best attempt at a home made meal for her husband – He arrives home from work to find his dinner, but a little on the burnt side. The young wife apologizes and sets out to try again tomorrow.

The next day, He arrives home from work, And again, dinner is ready. We are talking about he 1950’s here…..So, as my Grandfather sits down to eat his dinner he mentions something about the meal not quit being ‘up to par’. My grandpa always laughs at this part…..My grandma grabbed his dinner plate and through it at the wall!

Now, as I mentioned, my grandparents were just newly wed, my Grandmother was either pregnant with my mother or my mother had just been born when this happened. My grandma was trying. My Grandpa saw that she was trying, but hadn’t quite learned the value of seasoning his words……45 years later, they were happily married only parted by death. My grandma has been gone for just over 10 years.

The moral of the story? Young wives – There’s going to be hiccups – There’s going to be times when things don’t quite work out as you had planned. Your going to mess up. Your going to get angry sometimes, but keep trying. Keep looking for new ways to improve your skills. But there will also be times when you succeed. The two of you. Together. And those days are more than words can describe.

Sometimes, I think being the “Perfect Wife”, is being NOT so “Perfect”, seeing your going to mess up, seeing you don’t have it all together. Forgiving each other for those little ‘hiccups’ along the road.

 

 

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Hope

HOPE is confident trust with the expectation of fulfillment.

Depression is one of the most common emotional ailments. One antidote for depression is to meditate on the records of Gods goodness to His people. This will take your mind of the present situation as you focus on Gods ability to help you, rather than your inability to help yourself. When you feel depressed, take advantage of this psalms antidepressant: Read the bible’s accounts of Gods goodness, and meditate on them. (Study Note: Psalm 42:56 [NLT])

‘Why am I discouraged? Why is my heart so sad? I will put my hope in God! I will praise him again, my Saviour and my God!’  PSALM 42:5

Only Dust……

We are fragile, but Gods care is eternal. Too often we focus on God as judge and lawgiver, ignoring his compassion and concern for us. When God examines our lives, he remembers our human condition. Our weakness should never be used as a justification for sin. His mercy takes everything into account. God will deal with you compassionately. Trust Him.  

STUDY NOTE: NLT Life Application Study Bible; Psalm 103:14

“For he knows how weak we are; he remembers we are only dust.” PSALM 103:14 (NLT)

Misinterpretations: THE OTHER WOMEN…..

A lot of things can be misinterpreted. In this busy world, we miss the real meaning of things if we forget to stop, slow down, consider what we’re doing-reading-watching….

When we look back through history, especially the Word, We read about many men in the bible who had more than one wife. This can be misinterpreted very easily.

David’s many wives caused him much grief. And as a result of David’s sin with Bathsheba, God said that murder would be a constant threat in his family, his family would rebel, and someone else would sleep with his wives. All of this happened as the prophet Nathan had predicted. The consequences of sin not only affect us, but those we know and love. Remember that the next time you are tempted to sin.                                                                                     (SIDE NOTE: NLT Life Application Study Bible – David and Bathsheba; 2 Samuel 11)

Yes, it does say David had many wives. Was he happy? Were his wives happy?

There was jealousy, deceit, envy, bitterness, greed and anger between women. There was competition between children, fights over the Fathers true Heir. Murder, lies, irreversible damage – All of which could be prevented if David had only one wife.

Yes, the bible clearly states that many men had more than one wife -But, this should be interpreted as what we are NOT to do. The bible is our guidebook for life. These verses show what we are not supposed to do. They show us what can happen if we do, participate in this lifestyle. It shows us the hurt that springs from having other women…….

I thank the Lord everyday for my faithful husband, Who truly loves me, as I am, with no other women.