“Treat a man as he is, and he will remain as he is; treat a man as he can and should be, and he will become as he can and should be.”

To affirm a persons worth or potential, you may have to look at him with the eye of faith and treat him in terms of his potential, not his behavior. This isn’t to say that we trust him unconditionally, but it does mean that we treat him respectfully and trust him conditionally.

(Pg. 59 – PRINCIPLE-CENTERED LEADERSHIP, by Stephen R. Covey)

Thankfulness…

There has been so much going on lately! I am on a mission to employ Positive Mental Health Strategies, When we have positive mental health, we are better able to deal with the things that come our way! One thing I have read that is beneficial is to write 3 things you are thankful for each day: So for the next little while – I am going to try and post everyday about 3 things I am thankful for: It just gets me in the right frame of mind:

Today, I am thankful for – My relationship with Jesus and the Lord, My children, and My husband… And maybe an extra one – I am thankful for hearing the birds chirping outside my window.

 

 

I want my daughter to grow up knowing she’s beautiful WITHOUT surgical enhancement. I want her to know she’s beautiful just the way she is. I feel women are beautiful with out having a breast job. They are beautiful just the way they are. And I want my daughter to know that, so even though I know women who have had work done, I would never do that myself. I have an example to show her. That she is beautiful just the way God created her.

Double Standards…

I hate to complain…but, this one is kind of a personal rant… I just find it so difficult when people expect you to live by a double standard – They expect one thing from you, but then do another thing themselves.

When I call someone, or ask them for something – I wait until I hear back from them. I don’t call them 2,3,4,5,6 times trying to get a hold of them because I understand life gets busy, they will get back to me when they have the chance. Maybe they haven’t had a spare few minutes. If it is 3, 4, 5 days later, that’s fine, I understand – life is busy. But other people, on the other hand – feel the need to keep calling you, emailing you, texting you – until you reply back.

When someone tells me they will be somewhere at a certain time, and they are a half hour, or hour late, I don’t message them, call them, email them trying to find out what the problem is. I wait. I know life gets busy, and maybe they got set behind for a few minutes – or maybe they didn’t have an extra few minutes to go back over plans again for a 3rd or 4th time. But other people feel the need to text you, message you, call you – until you get there. I understand people will be late. I have more important things to do with my time than worry about why someone is late – what is it of my concern? it’s not. I can occupy myself until they get here when they said they were going to. But other people make it their concern when someone is late. This is a double standard.

Many people who don’t believe(In Jesus) will say that believers are close-minded, never listening to any new ideas…But, As a believer, I am very open to new ideas, and I find people who don’t believe won’t even give you the time of day when it comes to talking about Christ – They are very close minded about Christianity. This is a double standard.

I think that’s all for now, complaining done…lol ūüôā

On the Outside, looking in…

It was recently implied that I want more from my husband – That I want him to change – that there is tension so thick you could cut it with a knife…

If that is what someone else see’s – on the outside, looking in – than they really don’t know my husband and I.

I have so much respect for my husband. Not in a way where he hordes it over my head – but in a way where, I respect his opinion, I respect his choices, I respect his decisions, ultimately I respect him as a man.

My husband is gentle and kind, but he is the head of our household. My husband laughs and plays, but he also makes the big decisions for the family.

As I have watched older couples that I know – I have noticed one thing that they seem to have in common, Men need to be shown respect – I’ve learned that even when you just say the word RESPECT around men, they perk up a little bit. Now- a -days, RESPECT is not something that is highly valued, but Men do need to be shown respect. Not because they are ‘higher’then us, or better, or smarter. But Realistically, Us women, tend to react with our emotions, while a man can be a little more level headed, so their opinion can be helpful. Jim is the head of our household, but in no way does he hold it over my head, or make me feel as though I were any less of a person.

I don’t feel like my husband needs to change. Back 9 years ago, when we first started our premarital counselling – I thought My husband had some changing to do…I thought the problem was all with him, but as we talked – I realized I held alot of resentment from past relationships and my childhood that I would kind of take out on him. That was 10 years ago. My husband and I have grown and learned so much together over the years, we are 31 and 32, and were 23 and 24.5, when we got married.

I love my husband, and have so much respect for him – I was a single Mom of one, when we met 13 years ago. He was 19. He took on another persons child as his own, and loved her- like his own.

I was  appalled when it was implied that I want my husband to change Рor that I am holding him back.

My husband helps out when he is home. He works alot, and has worked alot for the last few years, We also have 3 children. Our youngest is 3, When company comes over – he helps out, because he knows it is that much extra for me taking care of more people. I have an under-active thyroid, that has taken 8 years to get under control. When our youngest was born, he wouldn’t sleep for more than an hour at a time, and it got really tough! So my husband would help me, when people would invite themselves over to our house, to see the baby, and I had gotten maybe 6 hours of sleep in an entire week, that is not tension – that is him caring and helping. He helps me because he loves me and wants to make it easier for me, and also because he is gone for work most of the time, when he is home, he likes to help out! That doesn’t mean there is tension in our relationship – that means, that is what works for our family.

My husband will admit, that he helps out a little more when people are visiting. What people don’t see is what happens when they are not there – I get up at 5:30 am to make Jim’s lunch, not because I have to, but because I want to, I like knowing that he has a good lunch for the day, and that if I don’t pack him a good lunch, he’ll take all treats! I could stay in bed, or do the things in life that I want, but I want to make sure he is taken care of – my reasoning is…That if you are given the tools you need at home-such as clean clothes, warm food, love – you can accomplish your goals in life so much better.

I take out the garbage, I shovel the driveway, I do all the gardening. I used to cut the lawn, until we got a rider and now my husband cuts it. I also do all the inside work, dishes, laundry vacuuming, cleaning, cooking. When my husband gets home at night, supper is ready, he may have to bath one of our children, but other than that, his nights are mostly free – so if he has a project at home, or a friend needs a hand, he can get that done. I do most of the work in and outside the house, so when company is over and we have extra people to cook for and clean up after, he gives me a hand, and not because there is tension in our relationship…lol, but because he knows I need a hand!

I do not feel my husband needs to change and the problem is all with him. We don’t have a problem, and just because someone else see’s something on the outside, looking in – that doesn’t mean, that is what it really is like.

We, I -enjoy reading couples devotionals from our church. A few months back, I came across a really good message. As husband and wife, we are help-mates. We are designed to help eachother and work together. As husband and wife, we can also fulfill the needs of our spouse – emotionally, physically. And if we are withholding sexual relations because we are just too tired or exhausted, that is not okay either. Make the effort to give him a massage, make him feel needed. Some women may not like this, but take care of him, Us women always want to be romanced- and taken care of, but why does the man always have to start it? In Marriage, or a long-lasting relationship, Maybe us women, need to try romancing them a little bit…I mean – you make the plans, don’t rely on him to. You make the first move. Don’t wait for him to.

My husband works so hard. And I am trying to learn how to be financially fit so he can take a bit more time off work. We are learning how to budget, and set financial goals. We are learning together. When My husband and I first started dating – his entire paycheck went to drugs(Cocaine, Oxy’s)…We have come a long way in 13 years! Jim has dropped a lot of his bad habits, we have had to learn to budget together. And that’s just it – we do things together. Because we love each other, because we are married. I mean, that is the reason we’re married…Because we enjoy being together.

So yes, we do things together, as a family. When we go way for the weekend, We go as a family. When we go out for dinner, we usually go as a family. Especially as believers…The word tells us we will not be married in heaven, we will know our husband or wife, but it will not be the same as here on earth – So it’s a good idea to spend as much time together now, while we can, because in heaven we are not married.

My husband and I understand this, so we enjoy doing things together. I don’t usually go way for a night or two with the kids, by myself, we go together. We are not only husband and wife, but best friends. Seriously. I tell him everything. He tells me things that he only shares with his wife( which is me!LOL) I respect and love him, he loves, respects and cares for me. And what works for our relationship may be different than what works for other’s relationships! You do what works for you! And again, that is the point, people need to learn to start keeping there opinions to themselves, maybe they don’t know the whole situation, and what you see on the outside, looking in, may not be whats actually happening, Never make assumptions.

Part 4 – JESUS COMPLETES HIS MISSION

Continuing with our Easter Study: I have been a little sick with the flu and a terrible sinus cold, for the last few weeks, so I haven’t been able to get on here to write anything very often! But I thought there were a few important parts that could be discussed about the Final version in the Gospels of Jesus’ death and resurrection. I have shared about The Death and Resurrection of Jesus- the Saviour, from Luke(22-24), The Death and Resurrection of Jesus – the Servant, from Mark(14-16), The Death and Resurrection of Jesus – the King, from Matthew and now I would like to share from John(18-27) and his version of The Death and resurrection of Jesus – Jesus completes his Mission.

“Then Jesus told him, ‘You believe because you have seen me, blessed are those who believe without seeing me.” ¬†JOHN 20:29

Jesus wasn’t hard on Thomas for his doubts. Despite his skepticism, Thomas was still loyal to the believers and to Jesus himself. Some people need to doubt before they believe. If doubt leads to questions, and questions lead to answers, and if the answers are accepted, than doubt has done good work. It is when doubt becomes stubbornness and stubbornness becomes a prideful lifestyle, that doubt harms faith. When you doubt, don’t stop there. Let your doubt, deepen your faith, as you continue to search for the answer. ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† STUDY NOTE: NLT STUDY BIBLE ¬†John 20:25-28

‘Jesus also did many other things. If they were all written down, I suppose the whole world could not contain the books that would be written.’ JOHN 21:25

Johns stated purpose for writing his Gospel was to show that Jesus was the Son of God ( 20:31). He clearly and systematically presented the evidence for Jesus’ claims. When evidence is presented in the courtroom, those who hear it must make a choice. Those who read the Gospel of John must also make a choice – Is Jesus the Son of God, or isn’t he? You are the jury, the evidence has been clearly presented. You must decide. Read Johns Gospel to get a better view. ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬†STUDY NOTE: NLT STUDY BIBLE – John 21:25

 

THE SIX STAGES OF JESUS’ TRIAL: Although Jesus’ trial lasted less than 18 hours, ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† he was taken to 6 different hearings.

BEFORE the JEWISH AUTHORITIES:

Preliminary Hearing before Annas(John 18:12-24) – Because the office of the high priest was for life, Annas was still the ‘official’ high priest in the eyes of the Jews, even though the Romans had appointed another. Thus, Annas still carried much weight in the high council.

Hearing before Caiaphas(Matthew 26:57-68) – Like the hearing before Annas, this hearing was conducted at night in secrecy. It was full of illegalities that made a mockery of justice.

BEFORE the ROMAN AUTHORITIES:

Trial before the High Council(Matthew 27:1-2) – Just after daybreak, 70 members of the High Council met to ‘rubber-stamp’ their approval of the previous hearing to make them appear legal. The purpose of this trial was not to determine justice, but to justify their own preconceptions of Jesus’ guilt.

First Hearing before Pilate(Luke 23:1-5) – The religious leaders had condemned Jesus to death on religious grounds, but only the Roman government could grant the death penalty. Thus, they took Jesus to Pilate, the Roman governor, and accused him of treason and rebellion, crimes for which the Roman government gave the death penalty. Pilate saw at once that Jesus was innocent, but he was afraid about the uproar being caused by the religious leaders.

Hearing Before Herod( Luke 23:6-12) – Because Jesus’ home was in the region of Galilee, Pilate sent Jesus to Herod Antipas, the ruler of Galilee, who was in Jerusalem for the Passover Celebration. Herod was eager to see Jesus do a miracle, but when Jesus remained silent, Herod wanted nothing to do with him and sent him back to Pilate.

Last Hearing Before Pilate( Luke 23:13-25) – Pilate didn’t like the religious leaders. He wasn’t interested in condemning Jesus because he knew Jesus was innocent. However, he knew that another uprising in his district might cost him his job. First he tried to compromise with the religious leaders by having Jesus beaten, an illegal action in itself. But finally he gave in and handed Jesus over to be executed. Pilate’s self-interest was stronger than his sense of justice.

 

 

An Easter Story…Part 3

MATTHEW 26-28 ~ THE DEATH AND RESURRECTION OF JESUS, THE KING

‘Peter swore, “A curse on me if I’m lying – I don’t know the man” and immediately the rooster crowed. Suddenly, Jesus’ words flashed through Peters mind : “Before the rooster crows, you will deny three times that you even know me.” And Peter went away, weeping bitterly.’ ¬† ¬† ¬†MATTHEW 26:74-75

When Jesus entered Peters life, this plain fisherman became a new person with new goals and new priorities. He did not become a perfect person however, and he never stopped being Simon-Peter. We ¬†may wonder what Jesus saw in Simon that made him greet this potential disciple with a new name: Peter- “the rock”. Impulsive Peter certainly didn’t act like a rock much of the time. But when Jesus chose his followers, he wasn’t looking for models; he was looking for real people. He chose people who could be changed by his love, and then sent them out to communicate that this acceptance was available to anyone – even to those who often fail. We may wonder what Jesus see’s in us when he calls us to follow him. But we know Jesus accepted Peter, and in spite of his failures, Peter went on to do great things for God. Are you willing to keep following Jesus, even when you fail? STUDY NOTE: MATTHEW 26

‘Then Jesus shouted out again, and he released his spirit. At that moment the curtain in the sanctuary of the temple was torn in two, from top to bottom. The earth shook, rocks split apart, the bodies of many godly men and women who had died were raised from the dead. They left the cemetery after Jesus’ resurrection, went into the Holy city of Jerusalem, and appeared to many people.’ ¬† MATTHEW 27:50-53

Christs death was accompanied by at least four miraculous events: Darkness, The tearing in two of the curtain in the temple, An earthquake, And dead people rising from their tombs. Jesus death therefore, could not have gone unnoticed. Everyone knew something significant had happened.    STUDY NOTE: NLT STUDY BIBLE РMATTHEW 27:52, 53